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On The Table Read Magazine, “the best arts and entertainment magazine UK“, in Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office, executive coach Dr. Lois Frankel provides a modern, actionable playbook to help women eliminate over 130 self-sabotaging childhood behaviors and break through today’s complex workplace barriers.
From corporate trends like leaning in to girlbossing, women have spent decades trying to decode professional success. Yet, even as the modern landscape evolves, many women still find themselves navigating a complex web of subtle barriers and deeply ingrained habits that stall their professional growth.
In the fully updated third edition of her bestselling business classic, Nice Girls Don’t Get The Corner Office: Unconscious Mistakes Women Make That Sabotage Their Careers, internationally recognized executive coach and leadership expert Dr. Lois Frankel provides a modern blueprint for navigating today’s workplace. Blending her background in counseling psychology with over two decades of corporate experience, Dr. Frankel offers actionable insights to help women transition from simply being “nice” to being genuinely powerful.


The Reality of the Modern “Bro-ocracy”
While overt workplace discrimination has declined, it has largely been replaced by subtler, equally damaging challenges. Today’s professional women regularly encounter microaggressions like mansplaining and gaslighting. Furthermore, external shifts—including remote work arrangements, the rollbacks of diversity programs, and broader socio-political changes—have added new layers of complexity to career advancement.
Dr. Lois Frankel points out that despite historical progress, a frustrating amount of stagnation and backlash remains. In response, her revised edition takes a firmer stance against institutional bias, challenging women to recognize how childhood conditioning often morphs into self-sabotaging behavior in adulthood.
5 Unconscious Mistakes Halting Your Promotion
The latest edition of the book identifies over 130 unconscious errors that women frequently make. Rather than relying on dense theoretical concepts, the text offers direct, practical guidance to eliminate these habits.
1. Falling Victim to Gaslighting
Accepting manipulation or allowing others to make you question your own reality undermines your confidence and authority. Recognizing these patterns is the first step toward maintaining your professional footing.
2. Avoiding Corporate Politics
Many women view office politics as inherently negative and choose to opt out entirely. However, workplace politics are simply the rules of how decisions are made. Refusing to participate means giving up your voice and your chance to win.
3. Failing to Negotiate
Equating negotiation with confrontation causes many professionals to leave money and opportunities on the table. Effective negotiation is not an argument; it is a standard business transaction.
4. Asking for Permission
Constantly seeking approval for routine decisions signals a lack of confidence. Adults act decisively and take ownership of their choices, whereas asking for permission mimics childhood behavior.
5. Overcommitting and Multitasking
Just because you possess the capability to handle multiple tasks simultaneously does not mean doing so is beneficial to your career. Overextending yourself often dilutes your impact and distracts from high-visibility goals.

Building a Memorable Professional Brand
To secure a spot in the corner office, women must actively counter the fear that often eclipses their professional choices. True career ownership involves expressing your perspective clearly, maintaining respect for others, and pursuing high ambitions without hesitation.
True professional power requires balancing kindness with authority. Dr. Frankel emphasizes that while being polite is a necessary baseline for workplace interaction, it is rarely enough on its own to secure a promotion. Success requires building a distinct, memorable personal brand that showcases your true value.
Traditional “Nice Girl” Behavior
- Asks permission for minor tasks
- Avoids office politics entirely
- Views negotiation as confrontation
- Multitasks to the point of burnout
Empowered Professional Strategy
- Acts decisively and owns outcomes
- Learns the rules of the game
- Treats negotiation as standard business
- Focuses on high-impact projects

About Dr. Lois Frankel
Dr. Lois Frankel is a pioneer in the field of business coaching, a licensed psychotherapist, and the president of Corporate Coaching International. She holds a doctorate in Counseling Psychology from the University of Southern California and brings unique insight shaped by a decade of human resources experience at a Fortune 10 energy company.
An accomplished public speaker and consultant, Dr. Frankel has advised major global organizations, including:
- The Walt Disney Company
- Microsoft
- Amgen
- The World Bank
- McKinsey & Company
In addition to her corporate consulting, she dedicates time to pro bono workshops for non-profit community agencies. She is also the author of multiple books in her acclaimed series, including Nice Girls Don’t Get Rich and Nice Girls Don’t Speak Up or Stand Out.
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