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On The Table Read Magazine, “the best book magazine in the UK“, It’s Not Your Fault is Laura K. Connell’s guide to uncovering the subconscious reasons we hold ourselves back and explores how negative childhood experiences impact lives and feed the problem.
In It’s Not Your Fault, Laura K. Connell shares how growing up in a dysfunctional family conditioned her to find further dysfunction in adulthood, perpetuating a cycle of self-sabotage that wouldn’t be broken until her marriage ended and she was forced to face her alcoholism head-on. Laura went on to study the dynamics of dysfunctional families, and learned that her habits of self-sabotage were her inner child’s way of keeping her safe. This misguided form of self-protection prevents far too many people, just like her, from living their lives to the fullest potential.
Connell helps readers uncover the subconscious reasons they hold themselves back and explains that these blind spots were often created in childhood as coping mechanisms in response to trauma. But rather than teach tactics that ignore or give surface attention to adverse childhood events, Connell lovingly guides readers toward a deeper understanding of the ways in which these negative childhood experiences have impacted their lives and fed into the problem.
Throughout her book, Connell walks alongside the reader as a trusted guide who has been where they are now. She provides the tools and anecdotal evidence to show readers how to overcome the pain of self-sabotage and create the lives they desire.
I was just constantly trying to keep myself safe from harm, and when you’re in that state of mind, you’re just not on your side; you’re not doing things that are going to help you; you’re just keeping your head above water.
Those who have been let down by traditional therapeutic techniques know that behavior modification doesn’t work for everyone. Simply doing things differently while staying the same on the inside might help in the short term, but before long, old patterns emerge.
We are sometimes our own worst enemies, sabotaging our success and with it our chance for lasting happiness. Readers will be relieved to discover that it’s not a lack of willpower that has held them back, but a lack of self-knowledge instead.
-Laura K. Connell
Laura K. Connell
Laura K. Connell is a trauma-informed author and coach who helps her clients uncover blind spots that lead to relationship struggles and self-sabotage. She writes about healing dysfunctional family dynamics.
Her guest articles have further reached millions through personal development websites Life Hack, Pick the Brain, Dumb Little Man, Thought Catalog, Highly Sensitive Refuge, the anthology Chicken Soup for the Soul, and national newspapers The Globe and Mail and Toronto Star. She hosts popular multi-speaker online retreats that have helped thousands heal from dysfunctional family trauma. She has been featured on podcasts such as The Love Fix, Adult Child and A Date with Darkness.
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